Tips for New College Freshmen and Parents

This month, new college freshmen and their parents all across America are starting a new stage of life.   We’ve experienced this milestone with our 3 children and know first hand that it can be a traumatic time for both parent and student.

Nick Selby, a Georgia Tech sophomore offers 10 tips to a new Georgia Tech freshman class (video below) that is funny and inspiring and has great lessons for all upcoming college freshmen.   I’ve added 4 corollaries for parents and a lesson we can learn from Nick’s last tip, #10.

Nick’s 10 tips are listed below:

Marriage is forever, like a lock when you throw away the key

On a Paris bridge over the River Seine, couples proclaim their love for each other by buying a key lock, attaching it to the bridge, making a wish and throwing the keys in the river.  Monica and I celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary this year in Paris.  We joined thousands of Parisians and visitors and bought a 3-euro lock, wrote our names and date on it, attached it to the bridge and threw the keys in the river, making a wish for another 30 years together.

I don’t know how long the City of Paris will allow our lock to stay on the bridge.  However, it was a reminder that marriage should be forever and a great romantic memory of our trip.

Locks on a Paris bridge

Locks on a Paris bridge

We saw a few combination locks on the bridge (see photo insert) and joked that those may be from couples less optimistic about the length of their relationship, wanting an option to remove the lock later.  Maybe it represents the couple that decides to live together instead of getting married or marries with a prenuptial agreement.

The experience reminded me of three principles important for parents who want a long, happy marriage:

Parenting by the Book (Howard Books, 2007)

Parenting by the Book is a great reminder of the Biblical principles of raising children with great strategies and advice for raising children of character.  John Rosemond also shares how parenting styles changed dramatically in the 1960’s and how these ‘new’ strategies have caused more discipline problems for children and higher anxiety for parents.  In a humorous way, John exposes some of the strategies that have become accepted parts of today’s parenting styles.

Monica and I have used ‘Parenting by the Book’ in small and medium group studies at Stonecreek Church in Alpharetta for three years with great feedback from our group.

Click here to purchase a copy from Amazon.

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