“Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn. Life’s greatest lessons are gained from our losses”
The quote, “Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn: Life’s Greatest Lessons are Gained from Our Losses” is from the title of John Maxwell’s new book, Sometimes You Win–Sometimes You Learn: Life’s Greatest Lessons Are Gained from Our Losses, published in October 2013.
A popular speaker and best selling author, John Maxwell writes about a key leadership principle that farsighted parents should teach their children. I’ve not read John’s book but in today’s culture of self-admiration, parents can help their children avoid an over-inflated view of their own abilities by helping their children learn from their mistakes. And when your children win or succeed, it’s better to say, ‘you really worked hard!’ or ‘wow, you really did your best,’ instead of ‘wow, you are so smart!’
Beginner skiers appreciate the trail maps and signs that identify beginner and intermediate slopes and warn of the difficult and dangerous slopes for diamond and double diamond class skiers. Skiers need different skills and training to navigate each slope. There’s a similar trail map and training guide for parents: Its called ‘the four seasons of child rearing’ by John Rosemond, author of ‘Parenting by the Book,’ and was created to help parents identify childhood stages and successfully parent their children through each one.
The Four Seasons of Child Rearing
Here are the four seasons of child rearing.
“When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.”
I enjoyed reading Bob Goff’s book ‘Love Does.’ The book ranks a high 4.7 Amazon stars with over 570 5-star reviews.
The stories from Bob’s life are inspiring and make me feel like I can do big things just like Bob. It’s also a great example of an ‘other-centric’ view that is so important for parents to live out and teach their children.
If you’ve ever asked yourself, like I have, ‘what is my true purpose here,” Bob shares through many stories a very simple approach:
“We aren’t supposed to be observers, listeners, or have a bunch of opinions. We’re not here to let everyone know what we agree and don’t agree with because frankly, who cares? Tell me about the God you love; tell me about what He has inspired uniquely in you; tell me about what you’re going to do about it, and a plan for your life will be pretty easy to figure out from there.” —‘Love Does,’ p143.