In one of our first parenting classes, a friends shared that the reason he joined the class was because he got angry too often with his children and was looking for help. He soon discovered he wasn’t alone.
Parenting is ranked one of the most stressful seasons of life but it doesn’t have to be that way. In screamfree parenting, Hal Runkel helps parents learn ways to bring calm to their family.
“Your number one leadership role in the family is that of a calming authority. … It all begins with one fundamental shift. As you will see, parenting is not about children, its about parents,” – ScreamFree Parenting, page 6.
Jean Twenge, author of ‘Generation Me’ teamed up with University of Georgia Psychology Professor Keith Campbell to write ‘The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement.’
The book exposes the troubling effects of ‘self-admiration’ and self-esteem programs and the serious consequences of narcissism in America including incivility, egotism, rising debt and working less for more.
Parents will find the book helpful in identifying the myths of narcissism and the influences to look out for in their own family, school, the media and in the workplace.
‘Instead of telling kids what winners they are, its better that they learn how to fail with grace and resilience. In academia, we’ve found that this ‘learning to fail’ lesson has been much more useful than the ‘you’re special’ message.’
I enjoyed reading Bob Goff’s book ‘Love Does.’ The book ranks a high 4.7 Amazon stars with over 570 5-star reviews.
The stories from Bob’s life are inspiring and make me feel like I can do big things just like Bob. It’s also a great example of an ‘other-centric’ view that is so important for parents to live out and teach their children.
If you’ve ever asked yourself, like I have, ‘what is my true purpose here,” Bob shares through many stories a very simple approach:
“We aren’t supposed to be observers, listeners, or have a bunch of opinions. We’re not here to let everyone know what we agree and don’t agree with because frankly, who cares? Tell me about the God you love; tell me about what He has inspired uniquely in you; tell me about what you’re going to do about it, and a plan for your life will be pretty easy to figure out from there.” —‘Love Does,’ p143.
I really enjoyed this book. It describes how the values of many of the ‘under-40’ generation have changed from earlier generations. While not written specifically for parents, the book helps explain how parenting has changed over the years.
Lumping together Gen-X and Y under the moniker “GenMe,” author Dr. Jean Twenge argues that those born between 1970 and 1995 are more confident and assertive than earlier generations. However, she also points out that many are also more self-centered, more disrespectful of authority and more depressed than earlier generations.
A member of the ‘Gen-me’ generation, she explains how Generation Me is the first generation raised to believe that everyone should have high self esteem.
Twenge advocates ‘ditching the self-esteem movement’ in favor of encouraging real accomplishment to be ready for the realities of today’s increasingly competitive workplace.
Parenting by the Book (Howard Books, 2007)
Parenting by the Book is a great reminder of the Biblical principles of raising children with great strategies and advice for raising children of character. John Rosemond also shares how parenting styles changed dramatically in the 1960’s and how these ‘new’ strategies have caused more discipline problems for children and higher anxiety for parents. In a humorous way, John exposes some of the strategies that have become accepted parts of today’s parenting styles.
Monica and I have used ‘Parenting by the Book’ in small and medium group studies at Stonecreek Church in Alpharetta for three years with great feedback from our group.
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