September 20, 2013
A parent accused the opposing team of ‘bullying’ after his son’s high school football team lost 91 to 0. The Texas father asked why the winning team didn’t just take a knee and stop the game? The story created a lot of debate, reminding me that many educators and parents try to prevent low self-esteem by protecting students’ feelings at all costs.
I talked with my friend, Jeff Cole, an assistant football coach at Fellowship Christian School in Roswell, GA about the story. I also asked Jeff how he prepares his players to win and lose and how as a parent, he teaches these lessons to his own children. Here’s his story.
Right is right, even if everyone is against it, and wrong is wrong, even if everyone is for it.
Effective discipline requires strong parental leadership. According to John Rosemond, author of ‘Parenting by the Book,’ leadership is not a set of behavior modification methods but an attitude and mindset. Whether in business, sports or parenting, effective leadership traits include the following:
- may disapprove of what you do but they always approve of you
- lead by example
- enthusiastic sharing their vision
- decisive and willing to make un-popular decisions
- stay the course when the going gets tough
A popular leadership talk on Ted.com is ‘How Great Leaders Inspire Action’ by Simon Sinek. With over 12 million views, Simon Sinek’s talk explains how Dr. Martin Luther King, Apple and other individuals and businesses become more inspirational leaders. There are lessons for business leaders and farsighted parents.
TED is a nonprofit devoted to ‘Ideas Worth Spreading.’ TED started out in 1984 as a conference bringing together people from three worlds: Technology, Entertainment, Design. Since then its scope has become ever broader. Along with two annual conferences — the TED Conference and TEDGlobal — TED includes the award-winning TED Talks video site, the Open Translation Project and TED Conversations, the inspiring TED Fellows and TEDx programs, and the annual TED Prize. TED conferences bring together the world’s most fascinating thinkers and doers, who are challenged to give the talk of their lives (in 18 minutes or less).
Question: What leadership have you demonstrated in raising your children? You can leave a comment by clicking here.