Sibling Conflict: How to ‘Make’ Your Children Get Along

This is a guest post by our friend Christi Melrose, a wife and mother of 3 children. Christi shares a recent experience of sibling rivalry in her household and how she handled it.
How do you “make” your children get along? Ultimately we are training our children’s hearts. When my kids are unkind to each other I worry about their hearts, especially when I think of Matthew 12:34 “For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.” I have a 9, 11, and 13 year old. Lately, I’ve seen behavior that looks like they are out to get each other and generally don’t like each other. This prompted me to check out John Rosemond’s parenting website for some advice.

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Is it Bullying for a Football Team to Win 91-0? Parenting Lessons on Winning and Losing from a Football Coach

A parent accused the opposing team of ‘bullying’ after his son’s high school football team lost 91 to 0.  The Texas father asked why the winning team didn’t just take a knee and stop the game?  The story created a lot of debate, reminding me that many educators and parents try to prevent low self-esteem by protecting students’ feelings at all costs.

I talked with my friend, Jeff Cole, an assistant football coach at Fellowship Christian School in Roswell, GA about the story.  I also asked Jeff how he prepares his players to win and lose and how as a parent, he teaches these lessons to his own children.   Here’s his story.

Paladin 5/6th Grade Football Team

Paladin 5th/6th Grade Football Team, courtesy of Fellowship Christian School, Roswell, GA

Right is right, even if everyone is against it, and wrong is wrong, even if everyone is for it.

William Penn, founder of the Province of Pennsylvania and early champion of democracy and religious freedom

Parents, Require Obedience of Your Children

Desiring God: God Centered Resources from the Ministry of John Piper
October 29, 2013

Chad and Christina shared this link to an interesting post by John Piper, who pleads with parents to require obedience in their children.

Reading John’s story, I remember a similar story someone shared with me that convinced me that our children’s obedience could one day save their life.

How?  She  told me to imagine seeing a car speeding down the street and one of my young children playing in the driveway about to chase a ball into the street.  What would I do?  Of course I would yell, ‘STOP!

There would be no time for an explanation (sweetie, there’s a dangerous car coming down the street and you are in danger) or time to debate (Dad, we played in the street yesterday, what’s wrong today?).

Would my my child listen and obey immediately?  Obedience in this case could truly her life.  It was a sobering thought.

Obedience is not as high a priority today as it once was.  I hope you’ll read John Piper’s story.

Question: Do your children know that God wants them to obey you? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

Control the Chaos With Three Discipline Building Blocks

In the final two chapters of Parenting by the Book, John Rosemond encourages parents to adopt a Biblical leadership attitude in disciplining their children. A prior article describes ‘leadership’ principles that parents can use with their children (‘Parental Discipline: Reward-ship or Leader-ship?‘).  In the final chapter of the book, John gives farsighted parents three building blocks of effective discipline: Command, Compel and Confirm.  Follow these recommendations to control the chaos in your household:

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