After mastering counting by 1’s to 50 or 100, many children take on the challenge of counting by 5’s or 10’s. In my Sunday morning kindergarten class last week, one of my students was concentrating intently while writing numbers down the page. Numbers aren’t an unusual subject for my young friend since over the last year I’ve seen him include numbers in his drawing of family members, toys or other objects. However this day was different.
A 6-year Old’s counting by 301’s
I asked, ‘what are you counting in your drawing?’ and Kaden replied, ‘I’m counting by 301’s.’ I took another look and sure enough, he was counting by 301’s. Yep, ‘301, 602, 903 … ‘ that’s counting by 301’s alright. He was already way down the page so I did some quick math in my head wondering, how in the world he got to ‘2709’ — which took me a second to double check and confirm that was was indeed correct. He stopped when he got to 4214.
In Chapter 6 of Parenting by the Book, John Rosemond encourages parents to be the ‘number-one’ influence in their children’s life, following Deuteronomy 6:6-7. He claims that a typical child, who goes to bed at 9 and wakes at 7, has over 5000 waking hours of which parents may spend as little as 800 hours — 1 in 8 — in one-on-one time with their child. When we were younger parents, we competed against TV, books, friends and movies for the main influence in the lives of our children.
A big influence for our children in our early years was the TV. When Nathan, our youngest was a preschooler, he really liked watching the TV show, ‘Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.’ Of course the title should have been a clue for us to watch out. That show turned out to be a bad influence: We had to turn it off when Nathan started karate kicking and chopping his older sisters!
One day our 2nd grade daughter brought home a library book called, ‘Amy the Dancing Bear.’ The mystical story told the story of a daughter bear who would not go to bed, despite pleadings from her mother. Eventually, the mother bear gives up and falls asleep, much to the delight of her daughter, who keeps dancing into the night after she puts her mother to bed.
This article is Part 3 of a discussion of the four seasons of child rearing. The second season is the Season of Leadership and Authority. ‘You are not the boss of me!’ is frequently the reaction of children as they fight the transition to this new season that generally lasts from age 3 to 13 years. The goal of parents in this season is to change a child’s view from ‘Its my parents job to pay attention to me,’ to ‘Its my job to pay attention to my parents.’
This article is Part 4 of the four seasons of child rearing.
The third season of child rearing is the ‘Season of Mentoring,’ historically marked with traditional rites of passage like Catholic Confirmation or the Jewish bar and bat mitzvahs. From 13 years to 18 years, children and parents rate this season as one of the more stressful times of parenting.
According to John Rosemond, author of Parenting by the Book, a child enters this season to learn the life skills that will help him live successfully on his own. During this season farsighted parents become ‘mentors’ to their teenagers to help them learn the practical skills to apply and work at a job, budget their money, learn study skills and plan for their future.
When Jessica Stilwell, a Canadian working mother of three got tired of picking up and cleaning up after her 12 year old and 10 year old daughters, she decided to go ‘on strike’ and the house quickly turned upside down.
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Jessica found herself staying up late one evening cleaning up after her children and decided she had done enough. She had taught her daughters how to clean up after themselves — they just weren’t doing it.
When Jessica and her husband went on strike, they didn’t announce anything to their children. She and her husband just quietly stopped cleaning up after their children while they continued to clean their own dishes and pickup after themselves.