Marriage is forever, like a lock when you throw away the key

On a Paris bridge over the River Seine, couples proclaim their love for each other by buying a key lock, attaching it to the bridge, making a wish and throwing the keys in the river.  Monica and I celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary this year in Paris.  We joined thousands of Parisians and visitors and bought a 3-euro lock, wrote our names and date on it, attached it to the bridge and threw the keys in the river, making a wish for another 30 years together.

I don’t know how long the City of Paris will allow our lock to stay on the bridge.  However, it was a reminder that marriage should be forever and a great romantic memory of our trip.

Locks on a Paris bridge

Locks on a Paris bridge

We saw a few combination locks on the bridge (see photo insert) and joked that those may be from couples less optimistic about the length of their relationship, wanting an option to remove the lock later.  Maybe it represents the couple that decides to live together instead of getting married or marries with a prenuptial agreement.

The experience reminded me of three principles important for parents who want a long, happy marriage:

  • Marriage needs a life-time view — a shortsighted view with an opt-out option if things get tough won’t have the staying power  when challenges come along
  • Children benefit by seeing a strong marriage relationship between their parents.  Don’t let children take the place of your spouse.  Couples that do have more challenges staying connected once their children leave home
  • Outward expressions of love and commitment are important and easily overlooked by husbands

The pressures of life and challenges that come with children can test a marriage.   I hope you view your marriage like a key lock where you have thrown away the key, you stay focused on each other, especially if you have young children and you (especially husbands) look for opportunities to outwardly express your love and commitment to each other in front of your children.

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