Giving Her Away: A Mother of the Bride’s Story
This is a guest post by our friend, Karen Clark who shares a story from her daughter’s wedding day. Read why ‘motherhood is not for cowards.’ You can read more by Karen at www.karengilesclark.com.
I am still reliving my daughter’s wedding. It was a magical, emotional, beautiful time to watch her walk down the aisle into the arms of the man God brought into her life 2 years ago. I saw, for the ﬁrst time, the love between them ﬁnally openly expressed. I had watched them for 2 years, and always felt like something was being held back, which puzzled me.
As I sat on the front row of the church as the “Mother Of The Bride”, I deﬁnitely had a front row seat to witness love ﬁnally allowing itself to overﬂow. A new understanding and appreciation for my “new” son was born. He had held his emotions in for so long, not wanting to arouse the passion that was just bubbling up, with no where to ﬂow, until the “I Do” was spoken. As I watched his heart overﬂow with tears as the vows were spoken, my “mother’s heart” was relieved.
How to Reduce Family Holiday Stress and Establish Your Own Family Traditions
It happens to most parents: trying to find a balance between each person’s family traditions and establishing new traditions as a family with young children. We often get caught up in the “major” traditions asking whether to open presents on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day, do we serve the full menu for Thanksgiving Day, and where to celebrate key holidays?
Grant and I are still trying to figure out how to balance our childhood memories of holidays, family obligations and traditions and our goal of setting new traditions in our family. Recently, I’ve realized that I can take some stress out by focusing on the other 360+ days a year to create new traditions and memories for Cecelia and Carter to carry with them as they grow.
Here are two new traditions we’ve started in our family and lessons learned as a family that will help us create more.
You’re My Hero: A Daughter’s View of her Dad
Huh? I woke up and became alert. I don’t hear that often. Maybe a handful of times in my life and those by the Queen. From CK, I hear “I Love You Daddy!” or “Thank you Daddy!”, etc. But not “Hero”. I wanted to know more, if I really deserved this “Hero” status. She commented to me how I removed a game “Face Raiders” that comes with all of these Nintendo DS devices because she was so scared of it. Funny, how she talks about it all the time, yet is scared of it. I stepped in to “protect” her from what she perceived as scary, the bad guys, etc. She needed to be “rescued” and I was there to do it (Though I didn’t know I did).
Whining Children? Try this Mom’s Response
In an attempt to make my kids understand how disrespectful it is to whine when I ask them to do a chore, I told them if they are going to complain about helping out the only words they can say are, “Mom, I don’t want to do this because I think YOU should be the only one who does any work around the house.” Not surprisingly my girls refused because they realized it was rude (and quite clearly a trap). My son on the other hand? He sweetly said, “Mom, I don’t want to put the silverware away because I really do think you are the only one who should do work in the house.” That kid is lucky he’s so darn cute.