You’re My Hero: A Daughter’s View of her Dad

This is a guest post by my friend, Michael Wright. Michael’s a husband and father and writes at ‘fatherofone.com’. The post is a great reminder of the positive influence parents (and dad’s) can have on our children. You can read more from Michael on his blog.
A few weeks back, after a Saturday filled with doing things with CK, we plopped down on the sofa as she played her Nintendo DS (she would correct me here and say “It’s a 3DS XL, Daddy!”).  I was just sitting there letting my body sink further in to the fabric when out of the blue she says: “You’re My Hero.”

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Huh?  I woke up and became alert.  I don’t hear that often.  Maybe a handful of times in my life and those by the Queen.   From CK, I hear “I Love You Daddy!” or “Thank you Daddy!”, etc.  But not “Hero”.  I wanted to know more, if I really deserved this “Hero” status.  She commented to me how I removed a game “Face Raiders” that comes with all of these Nintendo DS devices because she was so scared of it.  Funny, how she talks about it all the time, yet is scared of it. I stepped in to “protect” her from what she perceived as scary, the bad guys, etc.  She needed to be “rescued” and I was there to do it (Though I didn’t know I did).

Something really resonated in my heart when I heard her say it though.   I think it’s in the heart of a man to long to hear that.  As John Eldredge points out in his book Wild at Heart, every man is seeking:

  • A Battle to Fight
  • An Adventure to Live
  • A Beauty to Rescue

Sounds like a Hero to me.  However as CK grows older, the “bad guys” will possibly become real people and that is when the Hero skills will be tested.  Will I defend her honor and protect her both physically, emotionally and spiritually?  That is the test of a real Hero.  We have it in us to do this.  We don’t have to be like Adam in the Garden and shrink back.  Adam could have taken a sword and sliced that serpent to pieces no problem.  But he didn’t.  I’ve been guilty plenty of times of shrinking back from a challenge, taking a step back when I needed a step forwards.  Sometimes it takes a few lessons of what it feels like to “not fight” than to step up.  And that is training unto itself.

However, being a Hero doesn’t just mean ‘big” events or saving the world.  It’s the regular attentiveness to your child and wife and spending time with them.  To let them know they are special and loved.  When you spend all day working and you come home to play with your son or daughter, you are being a Hero. Big Time.  Especially when you’ve rather veg out on the sofa.

When it seems like you are doing nothing, you are doing something.  You are letting them know you are there for them.  That you care, that what they value is valuable to you.  And that sounds like a Hero to me.

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